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Poha Cutlet

Actually when you make a friendship with someone, it is important that you do not hurt someone’s feelings. A lot of people do not know how to be a friend at all and they are frenemies. For me to write about my feelings on a post to talk about a recipe is very cathartic and theraputic especially when you are grieving and it makes me feel a lot better when I get it the hell off of my chest.

Usually I have my heart on my sleave and it gets my ass handed to me every single time. I end up getting burnt and I mean very badly. The feeling that I got kicked in the teeth is the worst feeling ever. With my last experience was someone I met in Twitter and we became friends from a direct message which got us exchanging email adresses and cell phone numbers.

The friendship ended because he went through a very bad tragedy and he handled it very badly and my heart is in the right place because of him grieving and and grief is natural. I am still not over the deaths of my parents and other people I am close to but how I deal with it is I keep their memory alive by talking about them. However I am not talking to this person ever again.

After giving him a piece of my mind I let him know in order to be a friend he has to be a friend and I feel his so called friendship has strings and conditions on it and I do not need this. I deleted his contacts from my emails and my phone. I am never contacting him ever again. When I am friends with someone it is unconditional friendship. Even though my circle is small but that is how I like it and I know who genuinely cares for me and who doesn’t.

Mr. Riaz told me one day he seen a movie and I think it was an Indian movie where he seen this. This one lady had a hard time with a previous relationship and one guy was helping her to pick up the pieces and told her to tear up his photo so she can feel better. She tore up the picture and this guy helping her get through this bad relationship said to her if she felt better and she said she did. Obviously when I deleted the contacts from my emails and phone then I went to other social media accounts that he is on besides twitter.

He blocked me on twitter but he did not block me on Bluesky, purg.com and Spoutible. I blocked him there. This means I am done with this type of behavior and this type of friendship period. This made me feel. a lot better. Now when I was told that his significant other had covid, I started praying for her and I was in tears because I know what this horrible disease does. Besides I do not have to explain myself to anyone period.

I even shared my grief experiences with him and it did not fly with him at all and when I say my heartfelt condolences and prayers that I say this to everyone. I do not enjoy being chewed out for doing something that is so innocent. Now those social media sites that I had just mentioned. my name is benazirs_blog_ there.

Now to the recipe and thanks for hearing me out as usual. You will need 1/2 cup of either green or yellow moong ki dal and 1 cup of either rice or corn poha soaked. Poha is beaten rice or corn kernals, and dal means lentils. Soak the dal in 2 cups of water and 1 pinch of baking soda for at least 3 hours. You also soak the poha in a seperate bowl in 2 cups of water for the same amount of time.

In a large food processor drain by using a sieve by using a bowl to collect the water that the dal and the poha has been soaking in. Add the soaked dal and poha to the food processor. Don’t add any liquid. The water you drained the dal and the poha from now becomes reserve liquid. Do not discard yet. You may need it later. Add 1 green chili rough chopped, 1 pinch each of pink salt, turbidano sugar, hing, 1/4 cup of either frozen peas, spinach, corn or mixed vegetables.

Now turn on the food processor to grind and mix while making sure you do not add liquid at this time. It should be as dry as possible. Empty this in to a large mixing bowl then add 1/4 cup of rice flour. Mix by hand to make a firm dough. If it is too dry then you can take teaspoons full of the reserve liquid until the dough is no longer dry but yet it still has to be firm.

In a wok or a large cast iron skillet on high heat. Add 1/4 cup of either corn, canola, vegetable or peanut oil. Now you can throw out reserve liquid because it is no longer needed. Take dampened hands and break off marble pieces of this dough and roll it in to a ball and gently flatten it with the heal of your hand and place it in the hot oiled cast iron or wok in batches of 3. Cook until golden on both sides. Flip every 25 seconds and when done place on a paper towel lined plate. Repeat until the dough is all used up and enjoy with chutney of choice.